It always amazes me how some parents successfully dodge the pressures of pet ownership. I was not so lucky. I spent numerous years in animal avoidance, but after the divorce I was rendered defenseless against my children’s plea for something furry.
What I did not anticipate (and certainly would have appreciated a heads-up) was the fact that if you open the door to one small hairy creature, it has the effect of knocking down the Berlin Wall. Our house quickly filled with breeds that multiplied and organized, circling and sniffing my legs like I was a chew toy with varicose veins. Soon we were outnumbered and I had to face reality. We did not stand a chance.
Don’t get me wrong, I love animals. I’ve always had this feeling that pets sort of come with the package. You get the house with the white picket fence…and with it, an old lazy chocolate Lab who sits on the lawn with a tennis ball wedged in its mouth, waiting for the 2.3 kids who are safely returning on the 3:15 school bus. Phew…. so none of that happened, but I remain a firm believer that children should learn how to keep something alive and breathing. I just wish they could have learned the technique at their friend’s house instead of under my guidance.
Initially…to compromise, I bought a goldfish. Of course I knew a fish would not satisfy their desire for a playmate, but I had read rave reviews from countless families who found their simplicity nearly euphoric. I sprang for the bowl, a small, but intimidating McCastle, a few pink and turquoise pebbles, and a frisky fish. This pleased my kids for a few seconds, but then my little animal activists were back at it again.
Eventually I caved and Willie, the miniature Shetland Sheepdog came to live with us. “Wills” was a hyperactive, over-bred, easily distracted, and hostile canine, and the kids adored him. After some unsuccessful potty training and numerous teething puncture wounds, I took him to the vet. He advised the help of an expert, a sort of Dr. Doolittle, who specialized in animal behavior.
Luna, the Dog Whisperer, drove up to the house in a rainbow painted van covered in animal stickers. Her motto, written on the car frame, “Have you kissed your horse today?” No doubt she gets a stare or two on the highway, but if she could do something with our dog, I promised to visit a rodeo and pucker up.
Luna hopped down from the van, clutching her bag of tricks. A leftover hippie from the 60’s, she wore a tie-dye sleeveless shirt over a long flowing skirt, accented by an ancient pair of Birkenstocks. Her underarm hair was braided and tied off with rubber bands. She smelled of incense and a 4-H corral and instantly our little Wills was in love. As she lowered herself on to the floor and spoke softly to our pooch, she explained that dogs need love and respect. Just like humans, they need to socialize and meet others in a non-combative atmosphere. I was just about to tell her that I wouldn’t mind a little public interaction myself but I was too busy raising a family that showered me with as much love and respect as a bar of soap in a gas station restroom. But Luna did not care about my issues. Instead she told me to hop in her rig because we were heading to Greenlake, a perfect social setting to perform her evaluation.
It was one of the first sunny days we’d seen in weeks and the pathway around the lake was weighted down with joggers, sunbathers, and skaters. Immediately Wills made sexual advances on a timid toy poodle and then hiked his leg on a toddler. Each time he needed reprimanding, Luna would speak in some sort of doggie swollen tongue and he would stop briefly, only to be distracted again by some new desperado longing.
Eventually Luna confirmed what I had already come to understand…Willie would need extensive training. This one was going to be tough. Then came the sales pitch—she just happened to have time to do some personal training for $460 smackeroos, and of course it was vital that I purchase the accompanying video for another $40 or a full volume set for $120. That was after the initial $100 consultation. I listened earnestly for the first half hour and then I virtually lost it and unleashed all my pent-up anxiety on poor Luna. I can’t recall what triggered my outrage, but all I could think about was the fact that I had taken my lunch hour to watch my dog sniff crotches and eat goose poop. That is when I asked the hippie to take me home, which she did with such alacrity that I hardly noticed when she stopped to cash my check.
Meanwhile, I still had the problem, although Willie didn’t seem to understand that he was on probation. He bit the tops off sprinkler heads and ate the shingle siding; he dug patchwork squares out of our wall-to-wall carpet and gnawed the legs off our dining chairs. When the vet called to see how doggie obedience was going, I burst into tears. He offered another solution – The Canine Community, a campus designed for specialized training and long-term boarding. It certainly sounded expensive, but no more than repairs around the house would cost if I kept him at home. So after a quick phone call to enroll him in the program, I tossed him into the car and we drove to the country…and through the wrought iron gates of the community into perfectly groomed rolling hills, the smell of honeysuckle and lilacs, and the sound of a fountain oozing fresh mountain water through the ceramic mouth of a Great Dane. You would have thought I was taking Wills to Buckingham Palace for high tea. I’m not kidding, this resort was nicer than any place I had ever stayed. There was no doubt about it…someone was paying too much to teach Fido to heal and sit. And that someone was me…but I didn’t care. I was desperate.
Three women behind the reception desk spotted me dragging the dog through the doors. When I got Willie to the counter, they passed me a clipboard with release forms, a medical report, and a 3×5 card so that I could list my concerns. I asked them if they had something a bit larger, like a legal pad. They stared at me, their eyebrows raised, and then they began to exchange distasteful glances. When I completed my card, a heavyset woman in an Army green jumpsuit swung a jowl in my direction and read aloud, “I fear for my family’s life.” Then she looked at me and said, “Don’t you think you are being a tad dramatic? He’s a miniature collie, not a grizzly.” She peered over the counter at little Wills, who was happily dismembering the legs off a magazine rack.
I left Willie in the hands of these kennel-crazed wizards for an entire month, or at least that was the plan. My goal? Well, to be honest, I wasn’t sure. I had low expectations, nothing elaborate like commands of sit or stay. No, I was thinking more in the line of a dog that wouldn’t shred the wallpaper into piñata stuffing.
I had a glimmer of hope. The Canine Community would never be able to keep that fountain flowing if they couldn’t perform miracles, right? But just two weeks into his stay I got the call to pick him up. He was causing too many problems with the other dogs. The woman, who had scoffed at my 3×5 card, was now pleading for me to remove the Doggy Anti-Christ.
I arrived at the rehab resort to pick up my dog. I opened the car door and heaved my pet into the back where he immediately jumped up front into the co-pilot seat. Knowing he has a tendency toward car sickness, I tried to reach over and roll down the window, but before I could, Wills blew fine particles of his upgraded high protein diet through the air like gravel on a dirt road. We spent a long silent trip back to the city, eventually arriving home to fanfare. By the way the kids were carrying on, you would have thought Lassie had crawled a thousand miles back to Timmy.
The last straw hit when I ordered a new carpet runner for the stairs. The dog eyed the installer with a sense of excitement. As soon as the man secured his kneepads in place and began laying the carpet, Willie decided to mark new territory. The installer moved with amazing speed and agility, but he was no match for our pet. Wills kept his leg held in lock-and-load position and his stream set on drench.
It was summer. I looked at the kids playing in the plastic pool in the backyard. Since Willie’s joyous return, they had hardly noticed him. It didn’t matter. I knew they would be upset. I also understood all too well what I didn’t want to admit…there would have to be a compromise. Something they really wanted that I didn’t want them to have. What I did next I am certainly not proud of.
“So you know how you guys have always wanted to pierce your ears?
“Yeah.”
“How about today?”
“What’s the catch, Mom?”
“No catch.”
“But you said we had to be fifteen…That we would look like a couple of Ho’s on holiday if we got our ears pierced.”
“Well, I’ve changed my mind. Besides, I’m sure mommy didn’t use the word “Ho.”
“Yes you did. That’s exactly what you said.”
“Here’s the deal. Willie, poor dog, is homesick. He misses his mommy and daddy very much. Of course this is sad, but we have to do what’s right and let him go home to his family.” I said, trying to appear noble.
“So what you are saying is if we get rid of our dog, we can pierce our ears?” My seven-year old stared into my eyes like a wise old sage.
“I want hoops! Big dangling hoops that go down to my ankles!” Squealed the five-year old.
“Alright, let’s get something straight. The only earrings that are going in your lobes are those tiny gold balls.” I said.
“Then I’d rather have a dog,” the youngest said, extending her lower lip into a full-on pout.
“Yeah, and I’d rather have sprinkler heads and legs on my furniture…so I win! Now who will get me a couple of hot dogs so we can lure Willie into the back seat?” I sounded manic, but let’s face it, I was.
As I said, it was not a stellar parenting moment. Actually, it goes down as one of my worst examples, but at least I have regained a sense of sanity since Willie returned to his place of birth.
The breeder was sorry to hear that he didn’t work out, although I think she was even more depressed when I told her he was neutered. “He would have made a great father,” she sighed. Before she changed her mind, I waved goodbye and peeled out of the driveway. A lone hot dog sat in the seat beside me.
It took a few years, but we eventually got another pet…and then another and another. The good news? The kids did a bang up job keeping them alive and breathing.